With myself being a full-time working Mumma I have often felt stressed and guilty. I have recently realised it was SO MUCH EASIER when Mya was at nursery 8am-6pm. Now she's at school 8.45am-3.15pm the feeling of stress and guilt has grown tremendously.
The morning I returned to work, after being off for Mya's first week at school was emotional. The morning started off fine. I dropped Mya off to my grandparents at 7.30am as planned and made my way to work. Walked into my office and burst into tears. I felt like I was such a terrible Mumma. How dare I put that responsibility on my grandparents, how dare I go to work and not take and collect my child from school. I was an absolute mess! After 10 minutes of blubbering to my manager I calmed myself down. A bit of the guilt eased but it still feels heavy in my heart and I'm sure it will for a long time.
This week I have thought about asking to cut down my hours but financially I would struggle a bit. I would love to be in a position where I could but right now I just can't. I work hard to provide for my family and those who know me personally know I love to keep myself and Mya looking good :-D
I am lucky to have such support when it comes to myself and Mya and love how my family help in times of need. Without them I would have to hire a childminder. This will help out in the long run. I will be able to use the money I'll be saving on childcare to buy essentials and all the nice things I want as well as extra savings to go in my mortgage savings.
Parenthood is not easy but remember we are all doing the best we can!
Here are some tips to help find a balance between parenthood and work life whether you have to hire a childminder or not.
Sort out childcare
If you cannot rely on friends or family, research into childminders and breakfast and after school clubs. Some schools offer breakfast and after school activities and some schools only offer those services for children in years 1 and above. Annoying for us reception Mummas and those with children both in reception and above. Ask for recommendations from fellow parents and also ask the school. They may be able to point you in the right direction.
Don't leave things to the last minute! Have a set day to do the washing (especially the whites). That way you are not frazzled trying to look for a clean shirt. It also helps if you have enough for each day of the week. That will help to keep washing days minimal as you can wash the whites all together at the end of the school week. Do the ironing for the week over the weekend and hang up the uniform or pack away neatly. Sort out the packed lunches and book bags the night before. Also think about breakfast! Get a family wall planner/calendar but don't forget to add important information and to check daily.
Have a chat with your employer/manager
Explain the troubles you may have or experience. Be willing to take unpaid leave for those emergencies. There may be a time where your childcare arrangements fail or the unexpected illness. Discuss if you could have a shorter lunch break in order for you leave work a bit earlier.
Use your spare time wisely
Use your day/s off to complete unfinished tasks. Make time for your family. Have fun with your child/ren! Go on day trips or do indoor activities. Create special memories together.
Let go of guilt!
Guilt has to go! Jog on! MOVE! Think about it financially and the impact it will have on your financial future and try not to dwell on the fact that you can't take or pick up your child from school.
I'd like to thank my family for their continuous help especially over the last two weeks. Thanks to Mya's dad, my parents and grandparents, my sister Shani, my cousin Chloe and my best friend Kyle x
Until my next post.
Mumma who tries x